PARENTS ' SURVIVAL TIPS

Welcome to the world of parenthood!

Why didn't people tell you there would be days when you would feel:

     old before your time
     tired before 11 AM
     too upset to think straight?

Feature Topics

Dealing With The Stages
Birth to 1 year
Toddlerhood
School Age
Adolescence
Discipline
Getting Help/Helping Others

Would you have believed them if they had?

Parenting is challenging for everyone, and we all need information and support during each stage of a child's growth to do the best job we can. So take a few minutes and read about how to make the rewards of parenting equal to the demands.

Birth to One Year
Learn the basics. How do you bathe a baby? Change a diaper? You can learn. Read, ask your doctor or another expert, talk to your parents and other parents.

Love your baby. Give all you've got! Talk to your baby, touch, hold, hug, kiss, smile, and enjoy! It's impossible to spoil a baby! A baby is a tiny work in progress, and it's important that your baby's early experiences are as positive as you can make them.

Discover what's what. Pay close attention to all the sounds (cooing, babbling, gurgling, and crying) that your baby makes, as well as facial expressions and body movements. Each one means something different. This is how your baby talks to you.

Always handle your baby with love and gentleness. The pressures of parenting are tremendous. It's difficult to feel patient and loving when the baby wakes you up for the third time in one night, and you have to go to work the next day. All parents need ways to relax. Don't take out your stress on your baby. Your baby is too little to understand your needs.


Toddlerhood
Take a deep breath. The assault on your house, your personal belongings . . . this, too, shall pass. Everything is new and exciting to your toddler, and your toddler needs to explore to learn.

Childproof your house. Pack away your treasures, and lock up any dangerous or poisonous items. You'll breathe a lot easier, and you won't have to say "NO" so often.

Keep the rules simple and few. Kids this age can't grasp complicated rules. Your goal is to keep your toddler safe. Table manners and potty training can wait!

School Age
Show your interest. Check homework, talk about what's happening at school, let your child have friends over, and visit your child's teacher.

Talk and listen to your child.

Let kids help with age-appropriate tasks and chores.

Adolescence
Refuse to get confused. Part of growing up is acting like a two-year-old and an adult, all in the same afternoon. Expect your teen to do this, and be prepared to comfort, reassure, and on occasion, look the other way.

Face the facts. Your teen will probably say "I know that" when you talk about the facts of life, but do it anyway. As the parent, you're the only one who can share the values that go with the facts.

Let your affection show. Cool the physical demonstration (especially in front of their friends), but make it loud and clear through your words and your actions that you care.

Cut those apron strings. Values that are taught from the cradle may fade away during the teen years, but they'll come back--along with grown-up children you'll be proud to know. Trust your teen to make it all the way.

Discipline
Children need discipline. Effective discipline teaches children how to avoid repeating misbehaviors and what to do instead. Spanking is physical punishment, not discipline. There are many positive forms of discipline that are more effective than spanking. A few examples of positive discipline are: using time out, establishing rules and consequences for behavior, redirecting inappropriate behavior, ignoring annoying behaviors that are not harmful to the child or others, taking away privileges, and catching your child being good whenever possible.

Discipline techniques should be appropriate to the age of the child. See the parenting section of your local book store or public library for information on child development and age-appropriate positive discipline technqiues.

Babies are never candidates for discipline or physical punishment. They're too little to understand and follow rules. They are also easily injured; never shake or hit a baby.

Like adults, children respond better to approval and affection than they do to punishment.

Children depend on you to provide structure: regular meal times, play times, and bedtimes.


Examine your expectations for your kids. There are no perfect children, just as there are no perfect parents. Parents commonly have expectations for children that are beyond their capabilities at that age. If your children consistently fail to meet your expectations, the expectations probably need changing, not the children.

Shame, rejection, withdrawal of affection, or preferential treatment of one child over another are inappropriate and ineffective ways to discipline.

Learn more about effective discipline...

If you need help . . .
Asking for help is a sign of strength. Call Prevent Child Abuse North Carolina at 1-800-354-KIDS if you feel overwhelmed. We'll put you in touch with someone who can offer support and help. Or contact your:

  • Family Physician or Pediatrician

  • Mental Health Center

  • Health Department
     

If you know a parent in need . . .

  • Give him or her a break. Offer to take care of the kids for a while.

  • Be a good listener. Make yourself available to listen without judging.

  • Encourage the parent to join a parenting support group to receive support and information. Give the parent our number to call for a referral.

 

NEW!

HOLIDAY STRESS MANAGEMENT TIPS
With our nation at war and the events of Sept. 11th in mind,  this holiday season may be more stressful than those of the past.

Poison Proof your home with this handy checklist

5 Ways to Stop Child Abuse in a Public Place

Click here for Parenting Resources on the Internet

Safety Warnings Cotton T-shirts for sleepwear pose a burn hazard for children, and some toy cars in Kellogg cereal boxes can pose a choking hazard for small children. Many of the Consumer Produce Safety Commission's warnings and recalls, like these, refer to children's products. Check their Web site regularly. http://www.cpsc.gov

Effective Discipline
Positive discipline techniques to help you and your child.

Links to Internet Resources for Parents

www.babycenter.com
The baby center.

www.childbirth.org
Discussion on tough issues around child birth and early childhood.

www.family.com
Bulletin Boards and chat rooms.

www.familycorner.com
An online magazine covering thousands of parenting issues.

www.kidshealth.org
Resources and information on health issues.

www.tnpc.com/parentalk
/index.html

Clearly written articles by physicians and psychologists.

www.parenthoodweb.com
Pediatricians and psychiatrists respond to e-mails.

www.parenting-qa.com
Question and answer sessions on parenting.

www.parenttime.com
Parent Time site.

www.parentsoup.com
Information and resources for parents.

www.zerotothree.org
Developmental information for parents.

On the Usenet alt.parentingmisc.kids

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Prevent Child Abuse North Carolina
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Raleigh, NC 27607
Phone: 919.829.8009
1.800.354.KIDS
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Email: info@childabusenc.org

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